an·ni·ver·sa·ry; noun \ˌa-nə-ˈvərs-rē, -ˈvər-sə-\ plural: an·ni·ver·sa·ries
the annual recurrence of a date marking a notable event; broadly : a date that follows such an event by a specified period of time measured in units other than years <the 6-month anniversary of the accident>
-from Miriam-Webster Dictionary-
to some people, certain anniversary means something. to others, it means nothing. some celebrate certain anniversary, some just let it pass by..
me? i like anniversaries. new year, birthdays, important dates..
like August 7th, the first day i started to put on this veil, five years ago precisely. or February 28th two years ago, when i knew that i got accepted in Sebelas Maret University for Psychology Department. or July 26th last year, my first prom ever 😀 . those dates are important to me. and so is today, September 17th. five years ago, i can say, that day was the start of it all. on such breezy Sunday afternoon, who would’ve known that love struck these two people?
we may perceive dates, anniversaries differently. it depends on us, whether or not a date or an event is worth-remembering. there are the ones who like to keep joyful and even painful memories, others just let it slip away..
to me, anniversary is a moment of reflection. a moment which reminds us of what happened back then; excitement, mistakes, misunderstanding, fights.. we look back, on how we were. and we see how we are now. we make comparison; we evaluate. why? is it necessary? yes it is. through this reflection we can grow better. we can develop ourselves; even our lives! it allows us to rethink, to see what we didn’t; to look from different point of view. it gives us experience, enriches our consideration on making decision. also, it helps us to avoid repeating the same mistake again.
there’s no one, nothing to blame if you don’t think this day *or any anniversary* is worth-remembering. things change, as time goes by. so do people, and their way of thinking. we have different heads, different opinions, different priorities, different personalities.
it’s perception, that makes us different person, unique to one another~
somehow it’s fun, tracing your own blog back to few months or years ago. like having flashes of all those moments, thoughts, and emotions at once. sometimes it makes me wonder, was it really me who wrote these? haha. looking back can be fun and tempting, i admit. but being careful is also necessary, to avoid ourselves from dwelling on the past. yes, some just find it hard to let go of the past. i was one of them too. but it’s tiring, i can say, dwelling on the past. you can’t change the past; then why bother trying, while we have the present and the future to alter before us? here i’m just trying to say that tracing back your journey is like reminding yourself of your happiness, downfall, achievements, moments to remember, also thoughts and principles you always hold onto that helped you come this far. so you don’t forget what shaped you into who you are now, so you still remember the purposes and goals you set. and so you can see clearer, how much you’ve grown 🙂
and this piece, was from September 17th 2011. i can’t lie, that day was important. but now i already have many many more important days to remember, many more important moments that bring more happiness and lesson to my life. they say life is like a book, it consists of chapters. some chapters — or stories — are better be left on a frame, hung on the ‘wall of fame’ of your journey. you can enjoy looking at it again, but not reliving it. let them entertain you, not draw you back in. the chapter in which there’s Sept 17th, was over long ago, and currently i am working another chapter with a different hero, and with its own twist. in case you wonder how i’m doing, i’m doing just fine. grateful and happy with my life, my story, with everyone involved. in fact, i couldn’t ask for more :’)
let go of what’s behind, and your steps forward will be lighter. i cannot guarantee that it will always work, but it did work on me. you can always choose, whether to adapt certain way, or create your own 😉